December 2019. I sit across from my doctor and stand up. I want to leave her office when she suddenly says "Wait."
I get a message that turns smy world upside down. In a second, the future with my partner evaporates. We break up, completely unexpected. I was devastated and didn't know how to ever get back up.
But that wasn't the first time. All my life, I've been lied to, taken advantage of, and was disrespected by men. A highlight was the narcissist who ignored me at my birthday party and flirted with other women.
I asked myself "Why me? What is so terrible about me that I always get such partners? And that was the key to my transformation: back to myself. Because change always starts within yourself.
I knew deep down that I deserve the best - yes, that every human being deserves real, pure love. I just didn't know how to. But I had a bad feeling that I've built my own protective walls and I finally had to face it.
So I did. Sneak peek into my journey: 4 talk therapists, 1 hypnotherapist, 1 intimacy coach, 3 Vipassana meditation courses, 1 holotropic breathing seminar, 1 Sacred Sexuality course, 1 training as a certified Relationship coach, and support groups. Countless books, online courses, podcasts, and articles from love experts. Daily meditation, journaling, and affirmations.
I still remember exactly when I bought the book "Getting Past Your Breakup" in 2016. The subtitle promises "Turn a devastating loss into the best thing that's ever happened to you." At the time, I thought, "Yeah, right..." Today I'm smiling because that's exactly what happened.
TIME DOES NOT HEAL ALL WOUNDS. TIME ONLY HELPS US SUPPRESS THE PAIN WE COULDN'T FACE.
As fate would have it, shortly after the breakup in 2019, I stumbled upon a 3-month boot camp by the author of the book. "Why not," I thought to myself. It is, after all, the most successful and best-selling breakup program in the world.
When it was over, I knew that I want to do this for the rest of my life. Supporting others to process bad experiences in love. Showing others that they are enough and perfect just the way they are. Proving to others that they too deserve a loving and fulfilling relationship.
Yes, I've faced my pain for the last 8 years. I've been through hell. I was cheated on and I cheated. I was willing to die to be reborn. It wasn't always easy, but I healed my wounds. I know my worth and I know exactly what I want. I set boundaries and no longer allow partners into my life who treat me badly. I can tell on the first date if someone is being serious or just trying to manipulate me.
You can too.
There's not a day that I'm not grateful for my last breakup. It's the reason why I can now pass on everything I've learned in the last 8 years to you.
Even if you think you'll never get over your ex, you can. Even if you think you'll never have the relationship you want, you can. There are things in life that you cannot control. But there's one place where you're always in full control: within you.
Are you ready to get past your past and finally have the fulfilling life you deserve?